[Smt-talk] Fwd: So All Men Are Guilty And Responsible For The Reality Of History?

[Donna Doyle]

Responding to John Paul Ito: Yes, I was replying to an off-list communication that made erroneous assumptions about me (e. g.,"on a pedestal"). I decided to forward my response to the list to clarify who I am and where I'm coming from. 

I'd like to add that, as I and other women have come of age, I've grown to appreciate sisterhood as well as male friendships. In the end, having received several personal replies, what astounds me is the power of one person's story to resonate, and the depth and breadth of heartache, no matter what gender. It seems to me that, as a Society, as we move forward, we must continue to try to ensure that, at least, we do no harm. 

Donna Doyle

Adjunct Assistant Professor
Aaron Copeland School of Music
Queens College
Flushing, New York 11367


> On May 1, 2014, at 3:29 PM, John Paul Ito <itojp at cmu.edu> wrote:
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> I actually found it highly commendable that Donna redacted the name of the person who (it seems) contacted her off-list challenging her previous post.  I think that off-list contact was highly inappropriate given the nature of the discussion, but more on that later (I'll send along a few thougths about process improvement when I have the chance to finish them).  But for now, please let this person remain anonymous — it helps lower the temperature of this conversation, which seems to me like a very good thing.
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> From: Gregory Karl <gregkarl at frontier.com>
> Date: Thursday, May 1, 2014 1:39 PM
> To: smt-talk <smt-talk at societymusictheory.org>
> Subject: Re: [Smt-talk] Fwd: So All Men Are Guilty And Responsible For The Reality Of History?
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> I had been following the recent discussions on SMT-talk with some interest and, I thought, excellent comprehension until the note quoted below from Donna Doyle. I am wondering about the provenance of its subject line. By its format one must assume it was a response to a post with the subject line "So All Men Are Guilty And Responsible For The Reality Of History?", but I saw no such prior post. (If such a post was published and I somehow missed it, I would appreciate it if someone could forward it to me.) I am also confused about the biographical note from Ms. Doyle that followed and about the person, only identified as "you," to whom it is addressed. 
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> I have come to expect the correspondents in the discussions I am reading on SMT-talk to be clearly identified. Any help in clarifying these issues will be appreciated.
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> Gregory Karl
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>>> From: Donna Doyle <donnadoyle at att.net>
>>> Subject: Re: So All Men Are Guilty And Responsible For The Reality Of History?
>>> Date: May 1, 2014 at 5:45:37 AM EDT
>>> To: ___________________________
>>> 
>>> Dear ______________,
>>> 
>>> No, I did not say that "all men are guilty."
>>> 
>>> Here are a few facts about me:
>>> 	My father died when I was 12.
>>> 	At 20, I left my oppressive, jealous mother, who did almost everything she could to stifle me,
>>> 		wanting little more for me than to be married and pregnant (not necessarily in that order).
>>> 		("I want to enjoy my grandchildren while I'm still young.")
>>> 	I worked my way through my BM and MM as a waitress and free-lance musician.
>>> 	I lived in a small studio apt and rode a bicycle around Manhattan, because I couldn't afford to take 
>>> 		the subway, for 15 years.
>>> 	I was seriously sexually harassed by a dept chair at my previous college. The dean feared I would sue.
>>> 		After learning that women who win discrimination lawsuits are blacklisted as troublemakers, I left quietly.
>>> 	I have not yet finished my PhD (after 15 yrs) because I've had to work as an adjunct/free-lancer ever since.
>>> 
>>> When I write my autobiography (as others have urged) perhaps you'll understand my position. I happen to like men 
>>> alot and actually, for whatever reasons, prefer male company to female. Just the way it is (my mother, perhaps : ) ). 
>>> Men who know me know this. It's unfortunate that you've laid so many assumptions on me. I, like Magic Johnson, 
>>> have a right to express outrage.
>>> 
>>> It's unfortunate that you had it rough, too. Life is not fair. All we can do is forge forward from wherever
>>> we are. Never give up on yourself.
>>> 
>>> Donna Doyle
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